Someone once said that the day you stop doing things purely for fun and instead do them because they're the right thing to do is the day you have grown up.
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What are these things?
Reflecting on the various phases of my life:
When I was a child, playtime consumed my world. I did not have time to read, write, study, eat or sleep. Playing was my priority. It was fun and although It wasn't the right thing to do, I was oblivious - I was a child.
Or take another instance, when I was in high school, all I wanted was a new tennis racquet every month. Why? Simply because a newer, seemingly more powerful version with advanced technology hit the market. Did it enhance my performance? Not significantly. Did I have more fun? Yes. Was it the right decision? No, but as a teenager, that didn't concern me.
It was only when I entered college, as a new adult, did I finally understand what is right. It had made it's way into my vocabulary. But fun still reigned supreme 99% of the time.
My first experience living independently relied on gifts from my loving family and high interest loans from banking institutions. Not only should I've known what is right, I should've followed those principles to repay the trust that put me in this position of privilege. No! I wasted a semesters' worth of money in a quarter. I cared but I lacked the skills to fix my problems.
My first job! Hurrah! I might've been all about fun but at the same time, unknowingly, I had developed my brain to separate out fun from what's right, especially if what's right worked in my selfish short-term interest. The expensive city of Manhattan didn't leave me with much savings. Education loans continued to be my bane for the better part of the decade. But it was raining credit cards - Amex, Capital One, Chase... don't judge me. Credit Cards are an essential tool for building credit history in the US - that was the right thing to do. But it was still more fun.
The first truly right "fun" thing that I did was to get married to my soulmate.
10 years later, as I write this, I am still caught in the balance of fun vs. doing what's right. As I hope to continue my "rightful" journey towards a "fun", fulfilling and happy life, I'd like to share some of my commitments with you.
I will continue to learn
I want to contribute to the less-privileged
I will continue to see the brighter side of everything
I want to make you smile more
I want to be open to people and their ideas
I want to be more creative and share my creativity openly
I want you to read this and help me grow. If you care about me, hold me accountable. Inquire about updates on my commitments. If there's any way I can assist you, please reach out. I'd be thrilled to bring a smile to your face.
Life isn't always black or white, as we all know. It's doesn't have to be one or the other. Fun and right do coexist. Both should give you a sense of fulfilment, sometimes, maybe with different half-lives.
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